Kinky Ways To Help You Find Sexual Pleasure In PAIN

Tying up is one of the classic BDSM moves and one that many people are familiar with. Tying your partner to a chair or a bed restricts their movement and gives you a kind of control over them you wouldn't otherwise have and with their physical choices limited, your partner has to just lay there and enjoy themselves. The roles can be reversed as well, with you being tied up and your partner having their way with you.



Another prime tenet of BDSM is spanking, caning, and slapping. A little bit of pain heightens the pleasure for many people. The keyword here is a little bit. Most people do not enjoy severe pain, which will break them out of the mood. If you do decide to add in a little slapping and spanking, especially if you're using riding crops or other tools, be gentle and ramp up slowly so no one gets hurt.Devices aren't to everyone's taste, but some people really enjoy them. Some devices play to the submissive aspects of BDSM, including ball gags, dog collars, and leashes. Others are meant to cause pain, such as nipple clamps or clothespins. Regular sex toys can also play a role in this kind of sex play, as long as everyone is okay with how they're being used.It's a little frightening to have your senses restricted in any way. This can include putting on blindfolds or masks to reduce sight, using earplugs to reduce hearing, or restraints to reduce movement. Double check what you do before beginning so everyone feels safe.While role playing can take many forms, the dominant and submissive roles are two of the most common in BDSM. Sometimes it's fun to order someone around, while other times it can be nice to be told what to do.

Choose your roles beforehand, then let the person "in charge" give the orders. Whoever is submitting during this session must follow them, or pay the price.Everyone loves the dirty general fantasy, don't they? If your partner makes you call him "sir" for the entirety of a lovemaking session, it can really add an extra spark. Of course, you should choose whatever title appeals most to you.

Perhaps "Your Majesty" or "Madam" would feel more appropriate. Stick to the titles throughout, and resort to your punishments for any slip-ups.BDSM can be a really fun way to liven things up in the bedroom, whether you've been with someone for years or are trying to see how flexible a new partner is. Whatever you do and whomever you do it with, just don't forget that sex is a very personal and vulnerable act, and both parties must be comfortable with proceedings in order for it to be good, consensual sex.

BDSM is great for some couples, but others find it isn't for them. No matter what your take, just be respectful and have fun.