Squirting

Is squirting always a result of internal (aka “G-Spot”) stimulation?

NOoooooooo.

There’s actually no univocal connection between squirting and G-spot stimulation. On the other hand that’s not to say that squirting doesn’t happen as a result of G-spot stimulation too.

Squirting and /or “gushing” can actually happen solely through external stimulation, i.e; touching the vulva, without even inserting a fingertip inside the vagina.

Isn’t squirting this fashionable ‘must-have’ that every woman wants to be able to do?

No. While there is a lot of hype and fetishisation around squirting being the pinacle of sexual capability, for the women who experience it in real life (let’s keep porn out of the picture for now) it can be inconvenient and embarrassing. The undeniable stigma and persistent belief that it’s just ‘peeing during sex’ does nothing to help this.

Is squirting the equivalent to being incontinent?

Here’s another big, big NO.

Squirting happens solely during sexual activity. The vulva and/or vagina must be stimulated usually with a finger, vibrator, penis (or whatever else you’ve using to be stimulated during sexual activity) to result in the expulsion of liquid (squirting).

Incontinence on the other hand, is the release of small amounts of urine in everyday moments (it often occurs from coughing, laughing, screaming, sneezing) with – obviously – no genital stimulation.

So, to recap:

Squirting = small to very large amounts of liquid, it may be off-white or clear, via the urethra, during sex, or sexual play (alone or with someone else).

Incontinence = small to medium amounts of urine, via the urethra, not related to sexual activity or genital stimulation.

What might be the biggest difference between the two is this: you cannot stop an incontinence episode, even if you’d like to, even if you try to. On the other hand, you can stop a squirting episode.

It would mean more or less putting a stop to your sexual pleasure, but it is possible. As a matter of fact, a woman may be on the verge of squirting during sex, and feel an urge that is very similar to the pee urge. As the general reaction to this feeling is to hold it back, this in turn stops the juice from being released.

Are you sure squirting isn’t peeing? Can a woman squirt without being incontinent?

Yes, yes yes. Assuming a woman who happens to squirt is incontinent is incredibly disrespectful, let alone unsubstantiated.

The anti-squirting advocates use this hypothesis relentlessly, it’s a great way of sex-shaming women: not being able to fully control our own bladder is shameful, and women are generally worried about the topic. So what better way to make a woman uncomfortable than telling her that her body’s response to sexual pleasure is actually a bladder dysfunction – that she’s peeing herself while making love or masturbating?

But it’s a big, fat LIE.

There are lots and lots of women who experience squirting during sex but no problem controlling their bladder in their daily lives.

But wait, can’t a woman squirt AND also be incontinent?

Of course it may happen. But it is essential to keep in mind that the two don’t go together – they’re utterly distinct and separate.

Moreover, being incontinent is not a irreversible condition. There are exercises specifically tailored to rebuild the pelvic floor ( “Kegel exercises”, “Kegel balls”, and also “Hypopressive method”).

If you happen to damp your panties a little while coughing, laughing, screaming or sneezing (regardless of whether you generally squirt during sex) you may want to address the issue with your GP or gynecologist.

Ok so squirting isn’t pee. But then, what liquid is squirting made of?

Let’s be honest: there’s no scientific answer to this question yet.

It is true that the squirting liquid comes out from the urethral orifice, same as urine. It is also true that it has a similar texture: both squirting fluid (let’s say: gushing) and urine are not sticky, which makes squirt very different from the type of juices a vagina discharges while aroused. BUT the squirting fluid does not have the same color, smell or taste as pee.

Is squirting the same thing as having an orgasm?

This is a very common misconception. The answer, not at all.

Squirting can happen once or multiple times during sex. It provides pleasurable sensations, which some women describe as a ‘release’ and it can indeed lead to orgasm.

However, squirting and an orgasm are not one in the same, and do not necessarily occur simultaneously.