Talking Dirty: What Your Lover Wants To Hear During Sex !!!


Talking dirty has a bit of a bad reputation. The main connotations are to porn scenes and four letter words being screamed at high pitch. But the truth is, sex talk plays a big part in many couples’ sex lives and can significantly improve intimacy on many levels.

Talking to your lover in the build up to sex can really heighten the sexual tension, leading naturally into physical foreplay and an increased sense of passion during sex. Once things get going, sex talk can also spice things up in positions where you have face-to-face contact, allowing your partner to hear your voice and feel your breathe to full effect. It can also result in both partners being able to orgasm quicker by adding an extra psychological aspect into the equation, which is sure to whip you both up into a sexual frenzy!


The idea of talking obscenities during sex doesn’t turn everyone on, however, it doesn’t have to be all rude and nasty. Speaking during sex can really help rekindle romance within a relationship and can also help to re-assure both partners that they are doing a good job. Hearing your partner moan with pleasure or tell you that they are really enjoying being with you can be a big signal that you are doing something right and can give you more encouragement going forward to be a bit more daring or adventurous.


1. That feels so amazing

2. I love how big/wet you feel right now

3. Please don’t ever stop what you are doing

4. Wow, this is the best feeling ever

5. You are turning me on so much

6. I want you to take control of me

7. I want to make you orgasm


Sometimes, the way you say something during sex can be just as effective as what you are actually saying. As a rule, women generally find it easier to sex up their voice with gentle whispers and sultry tones, whereas men might sometimes find it harder to get the tone right. Whatever happens, you want to avoid the words coming out sounding brash, offensive or derogatory to your partner.

It might sound silly, but practicing what you are going to say in advance can really help. If you are alone in your car or at home before your partner gets in, say a few phrases and practice the tone of your voice when you say it to see if it feels right. You will probably feel silly or uncomfortable, but at least you can avoid feeling like this in front of your lover later on.