Ways to Achieve Better Sex in a Relationship

Sex is ... perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we are all sexual.

1. To have more orgasms, talk about sex in greater detail.

Men nearly always having an orgasm, but still greater sexual satisfaction if they talk about the details of sex with their partners. Women report that they don't orgasm as much as they would like, but have orgasms more often when they have sex when relationship discussions specifically include talking about sexual content.

2. Talk about the details of sex more — and more often.

Discuss sex outside of the bedroom, as a regular part of working on your overall relationship quality. Talk about what you do during sex and what it means, what you each want, what you like, what you don't like, when are the best times for sex, when you don't want sex, what your fantasies are, what feels good, what doesn't feel good, and so on. Talking about the relationship without addressing sex may improve overall relationship satisfaction, but was not correlated with sexual satisfaction in and of itself.

3. Talk about sex in a way that works for both partners.

Both the process and the content of sexual communication are correlated with greater sexual satisfaction.

4. Be positive when talking about sex.

A positive, affirming approach to discussing sex is associated with greater sexual satisfaction.

5. Sexual communication is associated with greater overall relationship satisfaction.

✅✅✅ While sexual satisfaction and healthy communication contribute strongly to greater overall relationship satisfaction, sexual communication is likely to be very different from general relationship communication overall relationship satisfaction. ✅✅✅